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3 Easy Steps to Quickly Overcome Failure

Nobody is immune to it!  We all wish it didn’t ever happen.  However, when it does happen there is an efficient and effective way to overcome the negative impact.

I’m talking about failure…yes, yours too!

Denis Waitley made a powerful observation about failure several years ago.  It is just as relevant today.  He said:

“Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.”

Clearly, if you buy into Waitley’s observation, you cannot overcome failure through inaction.  In that regard, there are 3 steps you can choose to take efficient and effective action against failing permanently.

Your goal is to do the right things in the right way and at the right time to deliver your desired outcome of defeating failure.

Accept It for What It Is

The initial right thing to do when confronted with failure is to give yourself permission to accept that it is happening or has happened to you.

Recognize that failure is not a permanent condition, unless you choose to make it so.

No…failure is nothing more than a signal to you that the current way you have chosen to pursue yours goals is not working (that’s the right way to look at it).

And…the right time to take appropriate action to overcome your failure is immediately!  Don’t wallow in your misery!

Accept that it happened; figure out why it happened; define a logical course of action and then act.

If you want to explore this last thought more deeply here is a wonderful article to help you.

Rebuild Your Confidence

The previous step in overcoming failure clearly points out the need to take immediate action.  But…what action?

Simple—if you are like most of us, failure has a way of sapping some of our self-confidence.

So, at least the initial impact of any action you take must be focused on rebuilding your self-confidence.  Here, the old cliché, knowledge is power, comes into play.

When you have the knowledge you have a solid plan for overcoming your failure, your self-confidence begins to rebuild.  You will actually feel the surge of energy driving you toward taking the actions you have outlined in your plan.

As I said before, failure is a signal to you that you must adjust your approach to the success you desire.  In short, you must rebuild your plan.

Here’s how:

  • Review everything that has happened that led to your failure.
  • Identify the current strengths of your approach and, also, the weaknesses to it.
  • Determine all the changed or unexpected circumstances that have happened since starting toward your goal.
  • Incorporate the strengths of your current approach into your rebuilt plan.
  • Weave into your rebuilt plan any new actions required to deal with changed circumstances.
  • Build steps into the plan that will mitigate any weaknesses you found in your current approach.
  • Act on your rebuilt plan.

Recommit to Your Desired Goal

If you’ll note at the end of the previous two steps for overcoming failure, it all comes down to taking action.

And…so it is with Step 3!

However, the challenge for you may be in making the commitment to taking any actions you have defined as necessary.

There is only one way to truly commit to anything.  You must feel it deep in your soul!

You can’t do anything efficiently or effectively if you don’t viscerally understand WHY!  Your “why” is your purpose and, therefore, your source of the passion required to overcome failure.

Take an inventory of all the reasons why you want to achieve a particular goal and all the reasons why not.  Use a spreadsheet on your computer or a notepad and list down the left side Why and the right side Why Not.  If you have more reasons “why” than “why not,” you have probably defined your purpose for pursuing the goal.

The blindingly obvious is if you have more reasons “why not” to pursue a goal, abandon that goal and find another one!

For more on some thoughts to inspire you to recommit to your goals, go here.

On reflection, I guess you could say accomplishing all of the above steps begins with your understanding of why you want to be, do or have what you are pursuing.

Understanding your “why” is an embedded fourth step because when you understand your “why,” failure is definitely not a permanent option and overcoming it becomes your overriding focus.

garylogonewbrownsmallWhat are you going to do so you can accept your failure for what it is?  How will you rebuild your confidence to overcome failure?  What steps will you take in defining your “why” in everything you do?

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Crop of GNCC ShotMindstate mentor, author, trainer and speaker, Gary Greenfield (@LifeRider) provides self-employed people inspirational insight and concise business ideas to help improve mindstate and minimize stress. He believes a mindstate that is positive and stress that is minimized helps self-employed people better profit through performance.

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