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4 Important Secrets of World Class Communicators

All the political and moral implications put aside, John F. Kennedy would seem to be one of the great communicators in the last 70 years.  Martin Luther King would be another powerful example.

What were some of the characteristics of these two examples that attracted other people to them?  Why would those characteristics be important for you to emulate in your life?

Well, we’ll answer the question about the characteristics in the main body of this article.

As to the second question, the implication is if you don’t practice the characteristics described below, you will achieve less of what you can be, do or have in your life.

That would not seem to be a desirable outcome for you, right?  Let’s make sure that doesn’t happen!

Be Conscious–in the Moment

Lots of people have expressed why being conscious of the present moment is important.

Buddha may have said it best:

The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, nor to worry about the future, but to live the present moment wisely and earnestly.

It is only through practicing Buddha’s philosophy that you can maximize your attention to the people with whom you are communicating.  You are not focused inwardly on your woes of the past or your worries about the future.

You are only there for the person you’re talking with and they can sense it and very much appreciate it.  It’s called building rapport.

In other words, people feel more of an affinity to you because they feel a sense of good communications with you.  They have a greater sense you understand their ideas and feelings.

In all communications with other people, force yourself to focus on them visually.  If talking on the phone, force yourself to intently listen to each word.

Be Genuine

How many times have you been in the presence of someone who you did not feel was being authentic with you?  You may have quickly determined they were a total fake!

How did that make you feel?

Project those feelings over to every communication you have.  It will force you to remain true to yourself and who you are and other people will feel it.

Not being genuine is like living in another person’s skin.  You know you’re alive but you feel uncomfortable because you’re wrapped in something other than what is the true you.

Listen Honestly

I already mentioned the power of listening for staying in the moment and staying focused.  The additional dimension of the idea, here, is being honest with yourself as you listen.

When you listen honestly you can respond to the other person in an appropriate and sincere way.

This takes us to the differences between hearing another person and truly listening to them.

It is one thing to perceive the sound coming from another person’s voice.  That’s hearing.

It is totally another thing to concentrate and internally process the meaning of what that person is saying.  That is listening.

A few quick ideas for listening honestly:

  • Focus on trying to understand the other person’s point of view.
  • Don’t allow yourself to be distracted…focus on what is being said.
  • Try to be non-judgmental of the other person’s point of view or statements.
  • Develop an understanding of the whole picture being communicated by the other person.
  • Force yourself to listen to what the other person is saying through their body language, vocal tone and gestures.

Be Open

Effective communications is a two-way process.  It’s an exchange between two or more people that allows for understanding.

People can’t understand you when they feel you are withholding something from them…when they feel you are guarded.

Being open goes back to all the previous secrets of world class communicators.

One formal definition of the word, open, says:  allowing access, passage, or a view through an empty space; not closed or blocked up.

You can’t be in the moment; genuine; or, listen honestly, if you are “closed or blocked up.”

Take the chance on other people.  Be vulnerable.  Let go a little and let the other person be in control of the conversation from time to time.

Being open helps you to learn and grow and to strengthen your belief in yourself and other people.

It really is no secret!  If you chose to be conscious of each moment; genuine; to listen honestly; and be open, effective communications will be the least of your problems.

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Crop of GNCC ShotMindstate mentor, author, trainer and speaker, Gary Greenfield (@LifeRider) provides self-employed people inspirational insight and concise business ideas to help improve mindstate and minimize stress. He believes a mindstate that is positive and stress that is minimized helps self-employed people better profit through performance.

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