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Actually How Safe Is Your Perspective from Presumption?

Have you ever been confused by your own perspective on something?  Come on!  Admit it!

I’m talking about a situation where you were absolutely convinced you had a correct and very clear perspective on a situation. There was no doubt about it…you were right!

I’ll give you a personal example that happened to me to illustrate my point.

The example involves my morning jog. Many times while on these jogs I will see my wife pass by me in her car on her way to her morning workout at the gym. As she passes, we will wave to each other and continue on our merry way.

Recently was no exception to that routine. I’m out jogging. My wife passes by in her car and we wave to each other (actually, I stop jogging; turn; and salute her as her car passes by…don’t ask me why…it’s just something I got in the habit of doing). However, my perspective played a trick on me.

I’m jogging along enjoying the moment, the fresh morning air and anticipating my wife would soon be driving by and I would not want to miss my chance to acknowledge her in my own unique way!  I’m intently listening as I hear the sounds of each car approach before they actually come into view.

Then, I see it! It’s her car and I snap off a smart salute and continue on…this time sheepishly embarrassed!

Right, it was a Lexus RX but WRONG, it was not hers! My perspective was so absolutely clear it was her approaching I never questioned it.  I went through my normal silly routine of greeting her with a salute and paid the price.

I wonder what the guy in the car thought as he drove by and I gave him a smart salute? Would his perspective that I clearly was an idiot, or whatever, be correct? Here’s your challenge with all this.

You have to recognize many times in life your perspective of things is not the actual reality, regardless of how right you think you are.

To have the greatest fulfillment in life you have to train yourself to not think in absolutes about the clarity of your perspective. You have to be willing to test your perspective by:

garylogonewbrownsmalllistening more intently;

 

garylogonewbrownsmalllooking at situations from all angles;

 

garylogonewbrownsmallwithholding your final judgment until you have done both of those previous things thoroughly.

 

Okay…so, you say you would like to reach more deeply into how to make sure your perspective is, in fact, the reality on which you should act.

There is a thinking process we all tend to go through when developing a perspective on something.  If you understand the process, you will be better able to assure the accurate clarity of your perspective.

The process is called The Ladder of Inference.  Follow the link to understand the power of progressing up the ladder before taking any action.

The idea conveys the following alliterative philosophy:  Be picky to provide purity to your perspective.

garylogonewbrownsmallWhat is the initial step you will take to avoid having a perspective that is based only on assumption?

Please share your thoughts by commenting below.  

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Crop of GNCC ShotMindstate mentor, author, trainer and speaker, Gary Greenfield (@LifeRider) provides self-employed people inspirational insight and concise business ideas to help improve mindstate and minimize stress. He believes a mindstate that is positive and stress that is minimized helps self-employed people better profit through performance.

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Mace Horoff

January 17, 2017 3:37 pm Reply

Gary, great advice to test one’s perspective. I’m guilty of many faux pas such as your “salute.” Testing makes sense, but does it make sense to do it as routine practice or only in critical situations. I mean, if you tested all your assumptions, you wouldn’t have this great story to share and people like me wouldn’t benefit. Thanks for the article!

    Gary Greenfield

    January 18, 2017 7:56 am Reply

    Great point about testing one’s assumptions, Mace. I think the idea ultimately is not to seek perfection every time when searching for clear and accurate perceptions. Using the ideas suggested in the Ladder of Inference can help someone get it right more times than not. BUT…trying to achieve “perfect” perceptions every time would lead to an imperfect quality of life. It’s the jumping to quick, emotional judgements “every time” that gets us in trouble.

Marsha Freedman

January 21, 2017 1:24 pm Reply

Great advice post-election!

    Gary Greenfield

    January 22, 2017 8:55 am Reply

    I “presume” we will all survive but it could be a real challenge!