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Gaining Independence Requires Being Independent

b2ap3_thumbnail_MP900382640_20140604-151433_1You can’t be the victim and have independence in your life…period…end of story.  When you were born you became a separate independent being, at least biologically.  However, we all know you were totally dependent on the nurturing of your parents for many years after your birth.  On the other hand, it wasn’t too many years when you began to exert ever growing effort at establishing your true independence.  Remember those days when you were chomping at the bit to break free and become your own person?

Then, why is it as an adult you may be whining your way through life feeling like everything is the fault of something or somebody else?  You struggled all the years of your youth to break free and, yet, in your adulthood you’re claiming dependence on something or somebody else for the course of your life.  They are not the problem!  Your dependent thinking is the problem!  What follows are some thoughts on how to fix it.

Force yourself away from thinking other things are in control.  You are not bound by other people’s wishes unless you make the choice to be so bound.  Gaining your independence from anyone or anything requires you to accept responsibility for controlling your thinking and, therefore, your life.  The fact is you cannot be independent, if you are not responsible for the consequences of your actions.

To have enthusiasm for accepting responsibility for your life, you have to come from a place of passion.  Life was not meant to be lived without discomfort and challenges from time to time.  If that were the case we would all be bored out of our minds!  No…life is about constantly aspiring to grow and change not retiring into a dependent malaise of the false comfort of mediocrity.   Find your passion in all aspects of your life!

When you find out the why of everything you want to be, do or have you have found your passion.  Passion drives you to pursue your own independent course throughout your life.

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