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How Does Worry about Failure Relate to Miss?

There is a great children’s book about “The Worrywarts.”  The author, Pamela Duncan Edwards, does a beautiful job working her characters in the book through a series of “what ifs” that makes each one of them pause.

They worry about consequences if and when they wander into their little world.

Your problem is if you follow the initial thinking of Edwards’ characters in her book, you will allow worry to give you pause as you wander through your world.

The consequences of unjustified worry and the related pauses you take, as a result, bring us to the relationship between worrying about failure and miss, suggested in the title of this post.

If you don’t have to suffer those consequences, you will achieve greater success in your life.  Let’s see how you can choose to do that—avoid the consequences of being a negative worrywart about failure.

Maybe we should start by defining the word, worrywart.  The Merriam-Webster Dictionary says:  “a person who worries too much or who worries about things that are not important.”  That’s the classic condition of our heroes in “The Worrywarts,” Wombat, Weasel, and Woodchuck!

Anyway…When you worry about failing you may miss all kinds of chances in life because you didn’t even try.

Every chance you give yourself to fail is another chance for you to not miss a chance to succeed.  So, here are some ideas to help you minimize your worries about failure.

Focus on the Potential Reward

You, like so many of us, can make the mistake of jumping to a negative conclusion and, therefore, presume failure.  We are creatures of habit and those habits can be positive or negative.  In other words, we learn to worry about failure.

You can change your mindset!  Doing so can come down to your emotions.  If you find a deep reason why you want something, you will be more inclined to do whatever it takes to get it.

One way to develop a powerful reason is to invest most of your thinking on the potential rewards, if you go ahead and try to do something.  Furthermore, focus your thinking on the rewards when you do succeed.

You will shove your worry to the background because your mind will be focused on taking positive action.

Wait to Worry

There is a school of thought out there that tells you not to make judgments about your worry while also not letting it control you.

The idea is when you start to worry during your day or in the middle of the night don’t focus on the thought or judge it—get in the habit of delaying the worry.  In other words, rather than being a worrywart, become a “worry wait.”

The trick is to set up a designated time each day to focus on your worries.  All the rest of the day or night you discipline your thinking to defer the worry.

You are not telling yourself you are not going to worry.  Rather, you are telling yourself there will be plenty of time to worry at the appointed time in your day.

It takes work to develop the habit!

But, you will find as you progress in managing your worry to a specific time of day your sense of control will be uplifting to you.

Sometimes when you get to your “worry wait” time those things you thought you should worry about are solved or very much reduced in anxiety.

The bottom-line on this technique is it helps you stay focused on the more important things you are doing in your day to help you succeed.

Exercise to Stop

There is a huge body of science confirming the benefits of you having a regular exercise program.  When it comes specifically to your worries, exercise can help you stop.

It works this way, as I understand it.

When you choose to exercise, it requires a shift in the body’s reaction to it versus continuing to worry.

First, all the adrenaline you generate during worry goes toward meeting the body’s needs as you exercise.

Also, there is that fun little chemical in your body called endorphins.  Exercise helps your body release those chemicals and they feed directly to your brain giving you a sense of well-being.  In short, you will feel less worry when you drive up your sense of well-being.

Let the “juices” flow that were generated from your exercise.  Yes, after a few minutes the worry may start to return.

Go into your “worry wait” mindset and keep doing the important stuff in your day.

Bathe your Worries

Of course, you can’t throw your worries into a fountain somewhere and expect them to go away!

However, you can choose to throw your body into a warm bath and benefit from the resulting effects.  This is a particularly effective technique when you are trying to shut down for the day just before bedtime.

The body feels that bath and adjusts body temperature, etc. accordingly.  Everything else relaxes including brain activity which makes it easier to drift off to sleep.

Remember!  You will have time for your worries during your designated “worry wait” time slot.

The above thoughts are reinforced in a great article on this whole subject.  Also, there are a couple of other ideas I hadn’t thought of.

We started out in this article trying to understand the meaning of its title:  How Does Worry about Failure Relate to Miss?

garylogonewbrownsmallHow will you use the ideas to help you not miss chances for success because you are too worried about failures?

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