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How Safe Are You From Not Becoming All You Can Be?

Did you know in the Chinese culture 3 is a very lucky number?

To find out why that is the case follow this link to a very interesting article on the subject.

However, and more importantly, the concept of 3 being a lucky number has value to you regarding the content of this article.

If you struggle with how to be assured you will become all you can be, then the 3 concepts that follow will provide you assurances of how to overcome that struggle.

Think about…why should you live your life at a level of less than you can be?

The disappointment you may experience at the end of your life can only be described as shattering.

It’s too late!  It’s over and you did not take full advantage of the experience!!

You don’t ever have to feel that way!

The 3 major keys to having all the knowledge and skills necessary to achieve great success are your safety net to avoiding such a tragedy.


There is an interesting word in the English language. It’s the word, gregarious.

One definition for the word reads: “Tending to move in or form a group, as a herd, pack, or flock, with others of the same kind.” A second definition reads: “Seeking and enjoying the company of others; sociable.”

Well, here’s one fact as it relates to that definition.  The human race is gregarious as a fundamental aspect of its very nature.

We all clamor to be a part of our own flock, so to speak. Given that fact, it behooves you to be knowledgeable and skillful in being able to develop the connections necessary to become a member in good standing of the group.

The point is gregarious is not synonymous with automatic. You have to work at becoming a part of the group. It requires you to become a good communicator.

You have to take responsibility for being able to communicate in a way where you enchant your listeners with the power of your presence and the magic of your words.

To do that requires some carefully honed communication skills. A short list of five of those skills looks like this:

  • Personal grooming and presentation of yourself to others that allows them to want to connect.
  • Offering everybody you meet a warm and engaging smile.
  • Being willing to communicate with people through direct, warm and engaging eye contact.
  • Having the self-confidence to volunteer your name whenever the occasion presents itself.
  • Recognizing it is what you say but is also how you say it that encourages people to want to communicate with you.

I call those the Five Skills for Gregarious Connection.

Practicing those skills throughout your life allows you to live the fundamental fact of our human race and that, again, is by nature, we are gregarious.


Someone once said, “These are the best of times and these are the worst of times.”

When you think about it, that statement is true about any time in human history. There is always something good happening along with the bad things. It’s inevitably part of the human life cycle.

The key for you is to recognize that fact and teach yourself to enjoy the journey and not panic during the bad times.

So, how do you actually and comfortably deal with life’s ebb and flow rather than just holding your breath while hoping another old adage is true…”This, too, shall pass.”

I would like to share with you a formula I’ve developed for improving the quality of your life through converting the word, relax, into an acronym.

  • Read at least one good book per month.
  • Exercise your mind and body daily.
  • Listen to great music while frequently putting yourself into a mood of reflection.
  • Alter your routine to alter your mindset…shake things up from time to time.
  • X (Cross) each bridge as you come to it and not before!

Living your life through the above formula will allow you to enjoy either “the best of times or the worst of times.” So, RELAX!


Many people have a self-defeating attitude about personal development. On the one hand they know that learning brings about change. On the other hand, they resist change.

They know that some people have overcome enormous obstacles to become great but they can’t imagine it happening to them.

How about you? Which side are you on when it comes to your personal development?

To enjoy life to the fullest you have to be willing to make the effort to create options rather than live in the status quo.

To create those options requires you to come down on the positive side of the above noted contradictions regarding personal development.

To do that requires a willingness for you to want to exercise the option of lifelong learning.

There is no such thing as the status quo in life. Life is constantly moving…changing…surprising all of us. That’s the way it is.

And, to deal with it requires you to have an appropriate array of options that are suitable for your individual circumstances.

I ask you: How can you have options, if you haven’t developed a knowledge base from which you can create them?

If you don’t know anything, you can’t do anything!

Options are all about having a choice in dealing with changing circumstances in life.

If it is inevitable your life will experience change and surprises, doesn’t an array of options to deal with those circumstances make sense?

If so, your only option is to constantly be learning new things throughout your life that allows you to develop the full potential of that life.

Using the above 3 keys will assure you are safe from not becoming all you can be!

Which one of the above 3 keys will you begin working on first?

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Mindstate mentor, author, trainer and speaker, Gary Greenfield (@LifeRider) provides self-employed people inspirational insight and concise business ideas to help improve mindstate and minimize stress. He believes a mindstate that is positive and stress that is minimized helps self-employed people better profit through performance.

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