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How to Actually Stop Masturbating with Your Words

Communicating effectively is a wonderful thing!  So…what does that have to do with my use of the word, masturbating, in the title of this post?

There is no way masturbating (given its clear definition in any reference book you choose) can deliver as satisfying results as can effectively and intimately communicating with a willing partner.

And, so it is with all forms of communication from talking to yourself; talking to others; and/or communicating through the written word.

Yes, I know! I just wrote “talking to yourself!”  The fact is we all do it and it’s just as important to communicate well with yourself as it is to communicate well with others.

After all, if you don’t understand what you are saying to yourself, how can you expect others to understand you. In short, good communication skills begins with your “self-talk” and grows from there.

b2ap3_thumbnail_00262322The essence of establishing a good foundation of knowledge and skills in communicating effectively is to recognize it is what you say but it is also how you say it.

Broaden your understanding of the words in your chosen language and become adept at using them effectively. People perceive a great deal about you through what you say and how you say it.

Mark Twain said it most succinctly…”The difference between the right word and the almost right word is the difference between lightning and the lightning bug.”

To that thought I like to add…and the difference between how you say it and how it is received can be the difference between day and night.

Day, in this case, representing clear and well received communications.

Night representing a total breakdown of understanding by the other person or, worse yet, a defensive, negative reaction which totally shuts down a positive interaction.

I also believe the following thought can help you in understanding how to be an effective communicator.

Always speak to express not impress.b2ap3_thumbnail_MP900289528_20140226-205037_1

Whether it is the written word or the spoken word, the purpose of communicating is to convey something to another person or persons so they can and want to understand it.

A short version of the definition of the word, convey is: “transport or transmit.” The foundation to the quality of your life is built upon your ability to “transport or transmit” your thoughts, ideas, opinions, dreams, etc., to yourself and others.

Given that’s the case, doesn’t it make sense for you to build deep knowledge and skills in saying what you mean succinctly and empathetically rather than having people look at you with a quizzical expression and ask: “Say what?b2ap3_thumbnail_7K0A0079-800x533

For some more emphatic and succinct ideas on communicating more effectively go here.

garylogonewbrownsmallWhat is the first step you are going to take to stop masturbating with your words?

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Crop of GNCC ShotMindstate mentor, author, trainer and speaker, Gary Greenfield (@LifeRider) provides self-employed people inspirational insight and concise business ideas to help improve mindstate and minimize stress. He believes a mindstate that is positive and stress that is minimized helps self-employed people better profit through performance

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