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How to Take More Charge of Your Future

I can remember (at least) one time when I couldn’t do what I wanted to do.  You too?  It is a terribly frustrating experience, isn’t it?

The one particular time to which I refer was when I was in college.  I was studying business administration and had been hired for a part time bookkeeping job.  I had gotten the job through a referral from the Dean of the business department at the college.

I guess he felt I was up to the task of handling his friend’s accounting needs for his construction business.  I was getting straight A’s in accounting.

Fast forward a couple of months…it became apparent my academic level of understanding of accounting principles were nowhere equal to the demands of the practical accounting/bookkeeping requirements of the job. silhouette-315915_1280

Embarrassed to the core, I went to the Dean and explained my failure.  It was apparent I did not have the necessary knowledge or skills to make a successful go of the job.

The key lesson for you from my bookkeeping job failure is an understanding of what I learned from the experience.  The reality is I failed at that job but I did not fail to learn from it so I didn’t make a similar mistake in the future.

What I learned is sometimes you have to give up that which you want most–temporarily–so you can ultimately have it permanently.

Timing may be everything in life and especially if you don’t have the necessary knowledge and skills in the moment to do what it is you want to do.

Think about your own life. How many times have you wanted something so badly that you were tense, distraught, overwhelmed and just generally, forcing the issue?

Nothing seemed to work in getting what you wanted. It seemed totally futile and all would be lost. Then, for whatever reason, your attention was diverted from that issue, challenge or goal. Ultimately…wonder of all wonders…the solution to the unresolved issue, challenge or goal appeared and resolution was reached. Life was good!woman-591576_1920

Why did that happen, you ask?

All things come to you when you are truly ready for them becomes you have the necessary knowledge and skills. You can’t force the issue outside the parameters of your ability to handle it. None of this means you should not strive to grow as a person just because you can’t have what you want now. On the contrary, it’s usually the personal growth you experience in life that ultimately gets you what you want.

Don’t strive and your dreams will not remain alive!

It’s through the growth of your knowledge and skills that you expand the parameters of your potential and, ultimately, are able to expand your circle of capacity and achieve that which you want.

I believe this to be true at any level: personally, professionally and spiritually. But, striving, growing, developing should not put you in a state of debilitating tension. You should be able to do any or all of those things with a sense of peace that you are on the right track and, as such, you will ultimately get what you want.

It is your growing knowledge and skills that will give you that sense of peace. Yes, sometimes it’s frustrating when you don’t get what you want right now. Don’t give up! Shape up!

Do what you have to do to earn the right to have what it is you want. Growing your knowledge and skills over time always maximizes your achievements in life.b2ap3_thumbnail_j0410098

If you truly want something, then temporary disappointment at not having it should be your motivator to ultimately do all that is necessary to achieving it permanently.

By the way—back to my story—at the time, I thought I wanted to be an accountant but clearly I did not have the necessary knowledge and skills so I had to give up on accounting temporarily.  The irony is I never became an accountant permanently because—you see—while gaining additional knowledge and skills about the profession I realized it was not for me.

I have self-actualized in a totally different direction in life and have never regretted it.  Growing knowledge and skills allowed me to take charge of my future in a way that at one time I would have never imagined.

garylogonewbrownsmallWhat is it you need to give up temporarily so you can take charge and gain the knowledge and skills necessary to have it permanently?

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Crop of GNCC ShotMindstate mentor, author, trainer and speaker, Gary Greenfield (@LifeRider) provides self-employed people inspirational insight and concise business ideas to help improve mindstate and minimize stress. He believes a mindstate that is positive and stress that is minimized helps self-employed people better profit through performance.

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