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If It Isn’t Tough, It’s Probably Not Worth It

b2ap3_thumbnail_j0427604Don’t you just hate it?  Things are going along swimmingly, as they say, and then WHAM everything seems to change in a heartbeat.  Well, don’t feel like you’re the only one in such a situation.  If you, or any of us, are trying to do anything worthwhile we will face difficulty.

For many of us, the most difficult thing we face is having to make a tough decision.  It can be agonizing to say the least.  That said decisions are to be made not to be avoided.  Avoiding making a decision for whatever the reason…fear, lack of confidence, lack of understanding of the problem…whatever…is debilitating to you psychologically; damaging physically from the stress; and catastrophic regarding your pursuit of success.

As implied in the title to this post, if the decision isn’t a tough one, then maybe whatever is putting you into a corner of having to make the decision isn’t really worth it.  In other words, the value/impact of whatever on that which you are having to decide is directly relative to the difficulty of the decision it involves.  Bottom-line—figure it out and make the decision!

Here are a couple of thoughts on how to do that decisively rather than suffering the negative effects of avoidance.

If fear is the deterrent for making the decision, gain clarity on what it is exactly that you fear.  By gaining clarity, you will define potential routes to you overcoming the fear.  Fear is always driven by emotion.  Ring as much of the emotion out of making the decision as you can by getting clarity on your fear.  When you’re rational more things become actionable.

Let’s assume the decision is being made tough because you lack confidence.  Usually things that are truly worth your effort are things that may stretch the boundaries of your perceived competence.  Fix that problem by clearly defining what are the exact things you’re going to need to do and find ways to gain the knowledge or skill to do them.  That’s tough, I know, but you own it and you are the one that has to do it.

If you can’t explain it, you don’t understand it.  What I’m saying here is, again, you have to reach past the emotion of making the decision and develop such an understanding of the pros and cons that you can rationally explain them to yourself or anybody who may be involved.  One definition of the word, explain, is:  “make clear by giving a detailed description.”  You can’t do that if you don’t understand chapter and verse of that which you are trying to make a decision.

If something is truly worth it, then it probably will be tough to do.  Follow the above suggestions to make it easier.

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