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See the Shocking Truth About Your Situation

To quote the lyrics from a great song in the musical, The Music Man—“Ya’ got trouble…right here in River City!”  The question is what are you going to do about it?

Actually the first few lyrics of the song, Ya’ Got Trouble, go like this:  “Well, either you’re closing your eyes to a situation you do not wish to acknowledge or you are not aware of the caliber of disaster indicated…”

Again I ask, what are YOU going to do about it?

Another question—Ever wonder why things in your life are the way they are? You feel like you are actually living those lyrics from The Music Man and you don’t like it.

Well, the probable answer to the latter question is the situation is what it is because of you! In other words, you had a direct hand in creating the situation through your own choices.  Choices of how you think and the related actions you take.unknown-913575_1920

On the other hand, if things are good, congratulate yourself and keep on keeping on.

But, if “Ya got trouble,” consider the following thoughts and possible solutions.

As the saying goes, if you continue to do what you have always done, you will continue to get what you’ve always got. When things are going great that’s usually okay.

But, if things aren’t good, then it’s time to recreate your situation with new thinking and more disciplined effort to follow-through on the promises you made to yourself.

I like the thought…you must work as hard as the person you dream to be.

The work has to come at two levels:

  1. Your mental approach to things.
  2. The disciplined effort you put forth to change/improve things in your life.

From your mental approach to life, you can’t think like a victim. Victims don’t control their circumstances, usually.

It takes will power to force yourself from victim mode as to your situation in life. Don’t give in!

Force yourself to face your issues and tell yourself (over and over) you will do what it takes to make your situation what you would prefer it to be.

Taking Control vs. Being the Victim of Your Situation

The first thing you need to do in moving past “Ya got trouble” is figure out what thinking got you there.

Create a document with the heading:  Situations I Am Currently In

  • Make a two column table with the left heading entitled:  Others and the right heading Me.  List all the situations you currently have under one or both column headings (after doing the following).
  • Consider the entirety of each situation and don’t allow yourself to continue to reinforce the lyrics above- “you’re closing your eyes to a situation you do not wish to acknowledge.”  In other words, be brutally honest with yourself.
  • Forget the situations you are convinced need to be listed under the Others column.  Focus on those situations you have listed under Me.
  • By the way, if you have been truly honest with yourself, your Me list will contain the vast majority of your situations.

Create a New Scenario for the Me List

  • First take responsibility!  Don’t allow the past sympathy of others to convince you that you are the victim here.
  • An additional aspect of taking responsibility for your situation is to forgive yourself and others.  Whatever happened in the past let it remain in the past and move on.
  • You can’t create a new scenario in your life by trying to carry baggage from the past into the future!  Leverage the lessons learned from that baggage and check it into “Lost and Not Found” and forget it.
  • Then, for each situation write-out the plan you will follow in creating a new scenario you would prefer.

In summary, your situation shouldn’t be one where you are spending too much time wondering who and/or why. It should be a situation you helped create and, therefore, you have more control.

There is the shocking truth about your situation and what to do about.

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Crop of GNCC ShotMindstate mentor, author, trainer and speaker, Gary Greenfield (@LifeRider) provides self-employed people inspirational insight and concise business ideas to help improve mindstate and minimize stress. He believes a mindstate that is positive and stress that is minimized helps self-employed people better profit through performance.

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