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See Why There Actually Is Risk in Trying to Impress Others

I don’t know who first said the following thought and I couldn’t find out by “Googling” the sentence. Doesn’t really matter because it’s the thought that’s important.

The thought is: “Always speak to express and not to impress.”

You may have done it but surely you have heard others do it. Someone makes a comment that is clearly more complicated than it has be.

They use words that most people don’t even understand let alone use in their everyday communications!

Or, the comments are so self-serving that they clearly identify someone who is on an around-the-world ego trip!!  :<)

Got that person or those comments clearly in mind?

Think back. How did you feel upon hearing those words? My guess is there was at least some degree of discomfort or disdain.

You weren’t impressed with what was expressed! In fact, the exact opposite was true.

So, what did you do?

Well, if you’re like most of us, you filed the thought for future reference. You wanted to be able to recall it, so you could deal with the person who said it in a much more guarded way.

The old adage: “Once burned, twice shy.”

You can’t impress people. They must decide to be impressed not coached (through your words) to be impressed.

What you express and how you express it will determine how people are impressed. It’s like Plato said many centuries ago but is just as true today. 

“Wise men speak because they have something to say, fools because they have to say something.”

Plato had an amazing ability for speaking to express. Could it be because he didn’t feel the need to impress?

How about you?

The best help for you in that regard is the book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, by Dale Carnegie.

The first edition was printed some 90 years ago.  Yet, the skills discussed are as timely today as they were 9 decades ago.

It goes back to another thought I heard expressed years ago and that has always stuck with me.

“Principles endure.  Only techniques change.”

Carnegie’s book is full of principles for highly effective communications.  Only the techniques for practicing those skills have evolved over the years.

What are you going to do to make sure you check your ego at the door when trying to express a thought to other people?

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Mindstate mentor, author, trainer and speaker, Gary Greenfield (@LifeRider) helps organizations with inspirational insight and concise business ideas to help improve mindstate and minimize stress. He believes a mindstate that is positive and stress that is minimized helps people better profit through performance.

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