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What Is the Secret to Achieving a More Positive Mindstate?

What do you think you would do if someone said to you:  “Realizing your greatest potential has been cancelled due to circumstances beyond your control?”

Hmmm.  Sounds terribly ominous, doesn’t it?  Here’s the thing…it happens to people all the time and it can happen to you!

However, you can avoid such a calamity by understanding a secret to achieving all you can be, do or have.  Consider the following thoughts.


Circumstances—an interesting word.  By one definition, it means a condition or fact that affects a situation.  I really don’t think there is any debate about its meaning.

Where the debate can begin is regarding the origin of the circumstances.  Clearly some circumstances are beyond your control.  The weather would be the first example that comes to mind for me.  Another example would be the inexorable forces of gravity.skydiving-603646_1920

The bottom-line is there are numerous circumstances that can happen in your life over which you have no control.

On the other hand, you are not a product of those circumstances that are within your control.  They just are…but they do not define who you are!  Or, at least, you don’t have to allow them to.

When you feel totally out of control of your circumstances in life, your mood (mindstate) is negatively impacted.  The danger here is when your mindstate is negative all the related thoughts and actions become negative.

When was the last time you saw anything negative as being positive?  I would venture to say never because one is mutually exclusive of the other.

So, here is the secret to achieving a more positive mindstate.  You must move from allowing your circumstances to control who you are to controlling your decisions on how you deal with those circumstances.  In other words, it is your decisions that define who you are.

Regardless of your circumstances, when you make better decisions to deal with them as effectively as you can, you gain greater control over who you will become.


Define the Root Cause of the Circumstance

Nothing can be controlled until it is understood.  If you don’t understand the root cause of a particular circumstance you have no chance at taking steps to get it under control.

Write (in a very few sentences) what you think is causing the circumstance.  Pick the one idea contained in those sentences that resonates the strongest “why  the circumstance exists.

With a deeper understanding of the “why” behind the circumstance you are in a stronger position to make more sound decisions on how to overcome it.

Rational vs. Emotional

If you are going to make better decisions for controlling your circumstances, you have to recognize the impact of your emotions.

Reacting to anything only on an emotional level is a ticket to irrational thinking and highly negative results.

So…force your emotions to help drive yourself to find out more information about the circumstance.  Solid information acquired through an emotional need to get control gives you a much greater chance of finalizing your decision through rational thinking.

Emotions drive you to an action but rational analysis creates the correct action.

Danger:  Analysis Paralysis

There is a very important term to understand in this step for making better decisions.  The term is perfectionism.

As you try to weigh the balance between emotional and rational in the previous step don’t set unrealistically demanding goals.  Don’t allow yourself to be paralyzed by needing to feel if it isn’t perfect it’s unacceptable.

In matters of making better decisions, perfect is unattainable.  You will never get your emotions perfectly under control.  You will never have the perfect amount of information to make perfectly rational decisions.

Challenge yourself to do the best you can in analyzing the situation but make a decision and then make it right.

Moving Past Malaise

With the first three steps of the process under your belt, you are at a natural crossroads to making better decisions.

When you think about it, while driving a car and approaching a crossroads you are forced to realize you have options.  You can go left, right or straight ahead, for example.

So it should be when trying to make better decisions.  Use the first three steps above to identify options you may have that will affect the decision you are about to make.

List all the options you can see without being judgmental at this point.  Rationally consider each one in the cold light of the circumstance with which you are dealing.

After that consideration, allow your gut to guide you to what you think is the best option and, then, take control and act on it.

Help Can Be Helpful

Making any decision does not have to be made in a vacuum.  In fact, getting an objective opinion from a trusted adviser can help you wring the personal emotion out of the situation.

The adviser can look at your options from a total different frame of reference.  Having her/his observations will give you deeper insight into all the issues.

Consider your conclusions about your options reached after you completed the previous step and in light of your advisers observations.

Blend the two views together, as appropriate, and make the decision.

The Tender Trap

You are a human being, after all! :<) As such, you may fall prey to what feels most comfortable in making a decision.

Better decision making has little to do with remaining in your comfort zone and more to do with the discomfort of change.

Comfort feels warm, fuzzy, peaceful and, yes, tender.  It’s a trap!

To avoid this trap you can’t rely on what or how you did things in the past.  You can’t just seek information that supports the quick decision you made without going through all of these steps.

Do allow the objectivity of your trusted adviser(s) to help you avoid the comfort zone tender trap.

Decide to Commit

Okay…you’re there.  You’ve made your decision.  Congratulations!

Now, don’t equivocate!  Be confident because having gone through all these steps you have done the best you can to make a better decision.

Yes, you may have to adapt to changing circumstances as you fulfill your plan for following through on your decision.

However, it is one thing to adapt and another thing to quit!

In the final analysis, the secret to creating a more positive mindstate can never be quitting.  It is always dependent on your commitment to persistent effort.


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Crop of GNCC ShotMindstate mentor, author, trainer and speaker, Gary Greenfield (@LifeRider) provides self-employed people inspirational insight and concise business ideas to help improve mindstate and minimize stress. He believes a mindstate that is positive and stress that is minimized helps self-employed people better profit through performance.

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