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You Create Stress You Have a Mess

b2ap3_thumbnail_j0399350_20131124-190423_1You know what I’m talking about!  It’s that gut-wrenching tightness deep down in your soul.  You feel like you’re going to explode any minute and, in a way, you think it might be a relief!  Furthermore, you know exactly what is causing it, at least you think you do, but you don’t see a way out.  The source of your stress could be any number of external forces:  job, relationships, money, etc.  The problem regardless of the source is you feel you’re trapped.

Here’s the first step in overcoming the physical and/or mental mess that can be caused by stress.  You have to recognize that the source of stress is not from some external force.  Stress is created by how you deal with the daily external forces that occur in your life.  Your attitude is the determinant of whether you feel stress or not.  So, again, step one in overcoming stress is to realize you are the source of it.

Next, regardless of what you perceive the source of your stress, force yourself to back up and take a few deep breaths.  Continuing to feel the tension of stress is not healthy nor is it the solution to overcoming the situation.  You have to take a deep breath and reflect on what is happening to you.

Once you have defined the issue, you need to analyze why you are reacting with stress.  Just going through this simple process will begin to give you a sense of relief because you feel you are actively working at getting control.  When you have answered the questions around what is happening and why, you are ready to take the next step in blowing up your feelings of stress.

If you know “what” and you know “why,” the answers to dealing with the mess surrounding your stress become identifiable.  The key here is not to over react or act too quickly.  So, consider the “what” and how you can change it or eliminate it.  Simultaneously, consider how you could eliminate or, at least, mitigate the “why” of the “what” that you are allowing to bother you.

Going through the above process takes your focus from the emotion of stress and the related mess to the relief of cogent action.

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